From Freeze to Flow

The Neuroscience of Being Seen

In the quiet corners of our digital coworking sessions, I've witnessed transformations that echo ancient communal rituals. Consider the story of Maya, a member who joined our club during a period of profound grief. Initially, she kept her camera off, her microphone muted, embodying the 'freeze' response described in Polyvagal Theory—a state where the nervous system seeks safety through immobilization.​PositivePsychology.com

Maya's journey mirrors the resilience of wildflowers, which lie dormant beneath the snow, awaiting the right conditions to bloom. Through consistent, gentle exposure to our supportive community, she began to thaw. This process aligns with the concept of co-regulation, where individuals attune to the emotional states of those around them, facilitating a return to safety and connection.​PMC

Our virtual gatherings, though modern in medium, tap into the age-old practice of communal labor—be it quilting circles or harvest gatherings—where the act of working side by side fosters a sense of belonging and shared purpose. This collective engagement can activate group flow, a state where collaboration enhances individual performance and well-being.​

Moreover, the concept of morphic fields suggests that behaviors and patterns can be influenced by the collective consciousness. In our club, the consistent presence and mutual support create a field that encourages healing and growth.

Witnessing these journeys reaffirms my belief in the power of collective healing. In a world that often values individual achievement over communal support, our club offers a sanctuary where women can reconnect with the innate wisdom of working together. Let's continue to nurture this space, where every woman's presence is a vital thread in our shared tapestry.​